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That Tricky Thing Called “Chemistry”

Not buying it.

Last weekend I went to see “Water for Elephants” starring Robert Pattinson and Reese Witherspoon.  I had recently read the Depression-era story of a young veterinary student who loses his parents, then hops a train that just so happens to belong to a traveling circus.  I wanted it to be great, but I read the reviews so I had little to no expectations.

I have to say that I really enjoyed the movie as a whole, but (like pretty much everyone else) I didn’t get into these two stars as a couple.  Their romance was forbidden (Reese’s “Marlena” is married to the circus’ owner), which should be exciting, but I just didn’t buy it.  She seemed way too cranky, and Rob. . . well. . .  his “Jacob” just looked bummed out most of the time.  This boggled my mind because Reese is very pretty, and Robert Pattinson is stupid hot.  I thought that was a no-brainer.

The girl Jacob truly had chemistry with was “Rosie,” the titular elephant.  Rosie was played to perfection by Tai, a gorgeous asian elephant.  You can see in the way that Rob looks at Tai that he truly has a thing for her.  It’s crazy.  Why isn’t it that way with Reese?

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Was it just because Rosie is so lovable, and Jacob and Marlena’s relationship is fraught with drama?  Why didn’t audiences get on board?  Just what makes two people (or animals) have “chemistry?”

After a quick Google search, it’s pretty clear that no one else knows, either.  There are lists on some sites for who has the best on-screen chemistry, but none can really explain why.

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To be sure, it’s not just two beautiful people, or romantic lighting.  Plenty of awkward pairings have benefited from those things to no avail.  If you ask me, there is no answer to chemistry.  Just like in real life, I believe you can’t really help who you love.

As an actor, this realization really hits home.  I feel like there have been plenty of times that I “just wasn’t right” for a role.  Things just didn’t click, no matter how much I wanted it.  That’s why when the perfect part comes along- and the perfect person to play it does too, we see some real fireworks.

What do you think?  Can chemistry be explained, or is it a random fact of life?  Did you see WFE?  Did Rob and Reese fall flat, or am I way off base?  Tell me in the comments, and please click “LIKE” if you liked this post!  xx


I AM One of Those People!

Why are these a thing?!

The other day I was talking to my friend Nicci while perusing the internet (I have an internet addiction.  I need to go to one of those Internet Rehabs in China), when a link caught my eye.  It was CNN’s blog completely devoted to. . . The Royal Wedding of Kate Middleton and Prince William of Wales!

I casually mentioned to Nicci that, on the site, there was a story about souvenir Royal Wedding condoms, and we both laughed for a second and then she said, “Wait.  What site are you looking at?  Are you looking for information about that wedding?  Are you one of those people?

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“What?  No!  What are you talking about?”  I stammered.

“You know, those people who are obsessed with the Royal Wedding.”

“Me?  No!  I just happened upon this site. . .”  I lied.  But she knew.  I wasn’t fooling anyone.  As much as I want to be rational and realize that this is a completely frivolous event that has no bearing on my life. . . I can’t help it.  I am one of those people.

How embarrassing.  But really, how can you resist such an awesome story?  A “commoner”  (whose really a totes wealthy smarty who goes to an elite university)  meets and marries a real prince (who is kinda balding)!  That is magical.

And it’s not like it’s easy to get away from.  Every time I turn on the TV there’s a story about William and Kate.  I’m sure it will only get worse as their wedding date, April 29th, draws near.  I mean, The Lifetime Network made a movie about them!  If you know me, you know that I love those god awful Lifetime movies somethin’ fierce.

This is so fantastically creepy!  Like, how do they get all these details about their romance?  Did they go through their trash looking for love letters or something?  I have to watch it.  April 18th.  Be there!

Plus there’s amazingness like this, Fiona Gable’s “Knit Your Own Royal Wedding” kit:

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It comes with a tiny sapphire engagement ring, people!

And this, found on Regretsy:  A totally accurate and detailed commemorative cup celebrating the wedding of Kate and. . . wait.  Who is that guy?

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Pretty sure that’s not Prince William.  Attention to detail. . . FAIL.

What can I say?  Something about this wedding speaks to me, which is funny because I’ve never been someone who is into weddings.  I have no idea what I would want for my own wedding and honestly, I don’t care that much about weddings in my real life.  There are just so many aspects of Prince William and Kate Middleton’s wedding that I find surreal;  I can’t look away.

All I ask is that you try to love me through this, and try to understand if I don’t answer the phone April 29th.

So, I’ve confessed my secret.  Dare to share yours?  Are you obsessed with the upcoming Royal Wedding?  Or could you give two crickets?  Share your stories in the comments!  xx

Humility: It’s What’s For Dinner

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I love Whoopi Goldberg.  When I was three or four, I saw a clip of her pretending to be a little girl who wore a pillowcase on her head because she wanted “long, luxurious blond hair.”  I would crack my mom up by walking around the house wearing a pillowcase on my head because I wanted long hair, too.

I watch “The Color Purple” at least once a year (usually two or three times), and watching either “Sister Act” movie is probably really annoying with me because I say all of the lines aloud.

My mom likes Whoopi Goldberg, too.  Growing up, we had a huge “Ghost” movie poster at the top of the stairs in my house (along with a “Five Heartbeats” poster for some odd reason).

Why am I telling you these (mostly embarrassing) tidbits?  Because I want you to know that what I’m about to say in this post comes from a place of loveWhoopi, you lost your mind last week.  I’m  glad you got it back, though.

Lemme back up real quick.  Last Monday on “The View,”  Ms. Goldberg lost her shiz over a New York Times article that she claimed left her off a comprehensive list of black Oscar winners.  She lashed out at the paper, calling the piece “sloppy” and “shoddy.”  Check it out below (she seriously goes on for, like, five minutes.  Sorry about the title of the video- I couldn’t find another one!):

I love the part when she brings out her Oscar!  That’ll teach those haters over at the NYT to forget Whoopi!  Burn!  Or, it would have been.  If the NYT had actually effed up.

In fact, the article never claimed to list all black Oscar winners.  It was a critique of the lack of black stars in Oscar nominated roles this year.  Even worse, many of the films released in 2010 had no black characters in them at all.  This is actually a really important issue that should be discussed.  Instead, we were all talking about Whoopi Goldberg.

I get it.  Whoopi is a cultural icon, and if the NYT had left her off a comprehensive list, she’s got a right to be pissed.  But they didn’t, and when she realized she was wrong, she took two days to apologize (and even then it was kinda raggedy).  I’m sorry, but getting an Oscar doesn’t mean you get to throw hissy fits whenever you want.*  Maybe if she hadn’t been so caught up in needing to be mentioned, she would have read the article correctly.

I guess I just feel like a lot of artists let their egos get in the way of reality.  What we do is so important, but inflating oneself somehow takes away from the artistry of it, and makes it a game.  Winning an Oscar is a big deal.  I just wish that  Whoopi had acted more like an Oscar winner, and less like a sore loser.

*Okay, fine.  Maybe it does.  But the rest of us don’t have to like it.

Thoughts??  How do you feel about Whoopi?  Do you agree with the NYT article?  Do you love the movie “Clara’s Heart” as much as I do?  And can I play somebody if they make a “Color Purple 2?!”

Halle Berry Covers “Ebony,” Talks About Race

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Halle Berry is talking about her daughter, Nahla Aubry, in the March issue of Ebony magazine.  In an interview done just before news broke that she has dropped out of filming “New Year’s Eve” over a custody battle with Nahla’s father, Canadian model Gabriel Aubry, Berry talks about the importance of motherhood, and her views on Nahla’s race.

Halle told the magazine:

If you’re of multiple races, you have a different challenge, a unique challenge of embracing all of who you are but still finding a way to identify yourself, and I think that’s often hard for us to do.

Berry is speaking from personal experience here.  The actress, whose father is black and whose mother is white, has often said that she identifies as a black woman.  The challenge for her has been to embrace her black heritage without alienating her mother.  When asked whether she thinks of Nahla as black, Berry had this to say:

I feel she is black.  I’m black and I’m her mother, and I believe in the one-drop theory.

The “one-drop theory” refers to a belief during segregation that a person was black even if they only had “one drop” of African blood in their heritage.  Berry’s statements are in stark contrast to the alleged beliefs of Gabriel Aubry.  According to TMZ, Aubry sees his daughter as white, and had insisted Berry demand a retraction when the press labeled her otherwise.

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Without knowing all the facts, it’s kinda hard to know exactly how this will play out.  But it did get my little brain wheels turning, and I have a couple of questions:

1.)  Didn’t Berry and Aubry talk about race before her eggo was prego?  I mean, I’m in an interracial relationship, and The Boyfriend and I talk about it all the time.

2.)  Aren’t they both sort of right- and wrong- about Nahla’s race?  I mean, she is multiracial.  We can discuss it ’til we’re all blue in the face, but until Nahla is old enough to decide that for herself, who gives a crap?

3.)  Not to get too deep here, but doesn’t this interview speak to a larger problem?  Specifically that, even though we see more interracial couples on TV and in our neighborhoods, the reality is that race is still important- and controversial- in 2011.  We might like to give ourselves a pat on the back for being a more diverse society, but maybe the kudos are premature.

What do you guys think?  Should Halle Berry have spoken about her daughter’s race in Ebony?  Are multiracial people ever really allowed to choose for themselves what race(s) they identify with?  And is little Nahla possibly the World’s Cutest Baby?!  (Seriously, do a Google Image search.  You will die!)  Share your thoughts in the comments!

Merry Christmas!

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I hope you’re all enjoying family and friends today.  I’ll be vegging out with my fam (they’re visiting from Hawaii this week!) as we recuperate from Theme Park Madness.  I’ve spent more time walking around Disney and Universal this week than I have maybe in all my 3 years in Florida.  (Help me, please!)

While I know it’s not Thanksgiving, I’d still like to list a few things I’m thankful for on this Christmas day.  Bear with me, because this might get a little corny.  Ahem.  Here goes:

1.  Family- mine is driving me crazy, but I’m so glad they’re here to do it.

2.  Cold weather-  something about it makes it feel more like Christmas.  Being from Hawaii, I feel like I never really got into the spirit of the holiday until I could bundle up and drink hot cider.

3.  Wine-  helps with aforementioned family insanity, and just makes celebrating a baby’s birthday waaay more fun.

4.  Friends-  I’m just gonna go all out and say that I have the best ones.  Ever.

And finally,

5.  This blog-  I’m so glad I have a tiny spot on the interwebs to reach out to you.  It has made all the difference this year to have an outlet, and I’ve had an amazing time.

What are you thankful for on Christmas (not Thanksgiving)?  Also, do you know how on earth all those other bloggers manage to post AND have productive lives during the holidays?!  I still haven’t figured that out, so I’ve been silent the last week or two.  Not to worry, I will be throwing more craziness at you soon. xoxo

Boss Vs. B!t@#

Last week, this video of rapper Nicki Minaj went kinda viral:

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It’s a snippet from her MTV special, “My Time Now,” which aired November 28th.  In the special, Nicki travels back to her native Trinidad (yay for my fellow Trinidadians!  Apparently that is a word), works on her first album, and opens up about her superstardom.
Which is where the above clip comes in.  Not that no one’s ever said it before, but Nicki brings home the point of Hip Hop’s (and, let’s be real- the world’s) double standards for women in the cuckoo way only she can.  Why is it that Diddy can wild out and make all kinds of demands on the people he works with, and it’s cool, but if a woman in his same position does that she’s a 

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Granted, Nicki Minaj hasn’t quite established herself like Diddy and others who’ve earned a rep for being hard asses. Still, we’ve all heard that old adage, “you teach people how to treat you.”  It’s especially important in the entertainment world, where artists are usually just a commodity.  I mean, there are a gazillion chicks out there who can do what you do.  Why rock the boat when you’re just starting out and risk ruining your career?
But, okay.  I’m gonna just say it:  Maybe it’s time that more of us (women) stop trying to be all things to all people and just Boss Up.  Because making the choice between being nice and being in charge of how we’re treated isn’t fair.  Because, if we have to choose, shouldn’t we choose ourselves?
I’m going to focus on being more assertive in asking for what I want.  You should, too.  If not, all you’re left with is pickle juice.
Do you sometimes have trouble sticking up for yourself?  Me too!  Share a story in the comments if you want, and let’s work on that together, umkay?

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